Men and Women and girl?

hmm..... virgo seems to be having bad times now. i know i know, u will say that i'm just into horoscope thingy, but constellation do plays a part in our life ok??

Ari lent me a book, men from mars women from venus. I was actually having some struggle within myself, abt me, dear and ezzat, but after reading them, i feels much better and no longer in dilemma....

This book not only helps to see the differences beween men and women, it also helps us to understand how different point of views will help to make things better. I just finish reading chapter 2 of the book and here are some key points for u ppl to practise.....

Chapter 1 is just some introduction for overview of the book and some examples for how men and women think differently.
Chapter 2 is talking abt men as mr. fix it and women who forms a home improvement committee.

For men

Learning to Listen

Take an example, the wife is have a exhausting day at work and returning home hoping that her husband would give her comfort.

wife: There is so much to do, i dunn have time for myself...
husband: i told u, u should quit ur job... u dunn have to work so hard. find something u like to do.
wife: But i like my job. They expect me to change over such short time.
husband: Dunn listen to them. Just do wat u want to do.
wife: I am. I cant believe i completely forget to call my aunt today.
husband: dunn worry, she'll understand.
wife: do u know what she's gg thru? she needs me....
husband: u're worrying too much, that's why u're always unhappy.
wife: i'm not always unhappy. Can you just listen to me??
husband: I am listening...
wife: why do i even bother?

In the end the wife got more fustrated than when she was at work. As you can see, the husband is trying to offer solution to her wife, but in the end his wife just wanted to seek intimacy n companionship from her husband.

The wife just wanted her husband to listen to her, not necessary offer solution/advice. A "hmmm...." or "aiyo" would be enough and the wife knows that her husband is listening to her. Thus, the wife believed that her husband is respecting her. This also allow the wife to trust her husband in the end.... Isnt the world looks better now??

For women

Give up giving advice

Tom and Mary gg for a party. After driving for 20 mins around the same block, it's clear that the Tom has lost his direction. Mary finally suggested that he call for help. Tom become very silent. Throughout the whole party, the tension was there even till the end of the party. Mary had no idea why he was so upset?
From Mary side, " i love and care abt you, so i'm offering help."
From his side, he was offended. What he heard was "I dunn trust you to get us there. You're incompetent."

Mary could not appreciate how important is for Tom to accomplish his goal without help. Offering advice is the ultimate insult. Martian always assume that they can solves their problem unless they ask for help.

Mary had no idea that actually it was a good opportunity that she can have a better relationship with Tom. A good opportunity to love and support him.

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That's all for now. I'm tired. yeah, i know copying other ppl's work right? But i'm good enough to share what i have learn. so be nice to me ya? =P

Half way was listening to MM new song. Sexy boy ~Soyo Kaze ni Yorisoutte~ Wah sei!!! Type half way suddenly feels very high, wanna dance. Tried dancing like them in the end felt that i'm too heavy for it.... [=.=]" And then felt so sad.... It's a hint that it's time for me to go exercise my fats off.....

Fine! At least maintain my figure right?? Time to eat right!