The test of Relationship

Heard from my mum that my cousin is looking for flats liao. So when is my turn? =P

Seriously, i think i'm not ready for it. I still have 2 years before i finish my studies and need at least a couple of years to earn some money first. The next available for BTO ends on 2013 which is 4 years from now.

Marriage is a big thing for many girls. And perhaps as compare to many girls, i have more phobia abt it. I heard many many stories abt marriage. Girls change and guys not change or the other way round. Relationship that aint build on strong foundation collapse after a couple of years then soon separation and divorce. Nobody would know how strong their relationship until married. The test of relationship i called.

Base on wat i've heard stories abt is that the test of relationship which oftens associate with money, children and mother-in-law. Yes, every girl would take extra precautions. Sad to say, not many in-law are as accomodatives as our own family. I always felt that it is good to avoid any forms of fiction or arguments, thus not living together is one better way not to get caught into those ugly scenes.

I dunn like my future "husband to be" stick to their family so much. Or perhaps i should say that both family should be equal in very single forms. They have to remember that not only they have father and mother, but their wives also have their own father and mother to care for.

I see too much of how my father's behave and i feel that it is absolutely not desirable result to the relationship. My dad only cares for her own mother? so what abt my mum? My mum cant even visit often to my grandpa when he is in the hospital. Sometimes, i think the husband must remember that without her wife's parents, your wife wouldn't be even existed in this world. The husband's live would be pathetic without his wife.

Wife is somebody who knows husband's behaviour, likes and dislikes, frequency, their style and wishes. I believe no ones tell their family members how much they enjoy certain things right? Someone who gives them love and how to teach them to be responsible. Yes, tell me which girl is not naggy after marriage? You might as well married to a man if you dunn like nagging. Gays marriage is not approved in Singapore or maybe you can try US if you are desperate.

Compromise is a big word, and definitely not an easy to do. I believes that as long as no compromise is made, no action should be made. It's called respect for each other decisions.

Marriage is abt 2 ppl, not individual. If you like it that way and believes that it will worked out the way you expected it to be, then good luck to you. Cause if it doesnt work out, it only shows that you are weak to make good decision. And it only shows that you are weaker when it continues that way. It's a form of selfish acts, girls will eventually felt that their man is weak and left them for good.

I know i'm not those wonderful and angelical kind of girl. Definitely not soft-spoken and civilise person too. I cant promise that i wun shout at my husband but i promise to cook wonderful dishes when i love him, to look after him and his family when they are sick and of cause take care of their well beings. On the other side, i need him to love my family, dote, care and love me, support my decisions and trust me.

Husband need to feel a form of security before they can give their wife the sense of security that they need. If the husband dunn get that form of security, they are not fit enough to get a wife. Women need to feel secure for their life and their future as well.

I'm speaking just an overall for all the guys in the world. This is very general knowledge! Well, except the one that i will do for my "husband to be". It's my personal choice, but who know girls might actually agreed to what i've said.

It's already 3am and i took 2 hours just to briefly blog about how i felt towards marriage. Obviously, i still not ready for any major in my life yet. i'm surprise how fast my mum got married and already gave birth at my age. She's gg 50 in 2 years time and still need to work and continue to support the family. Thou i always shouted at her, but i still love her so much. Hehe~!

Good night and good morning! Need to work hard on my projects tmr. Jia you Yaya!